Happiness

Secrets to a Happy Life

"When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy".
 Rumi

 

The purpose of studying happiness is to understand and map out the factors that can contribute to the well-being of human beings. This has become a very important subject because now that scientists and positive psychologists have an idea what the key factors are behind an individual’s well-being, they have started researching and theorizing the secret to happiness.

Savor the Moments

Human beings have the remarkable ability to savor any moment of their life and that process of savoring can be divided into different steps. The process starts when the person predicts, savors and finally recollects the particular moment and by the end of the process, there is an increase in positive emotions of the individual. Some simple savoring strategies that you can employ without any trouble are:

 

Write down the blessings of your life that you are grateful for and it will help you acknowledge your good fortune.

 

Mentally photograph a precious moment so that it can be remembered later.

 

Recollect the feeling of pleasure you feel after doing something you are enthusiastic about.

 

Acknowledge the feeling of achievement when you complete a goal.

 

While you are experiencing a pleasurable moment, take a minute to think about how you will tell the tale to other people and you would feel a rise in anticipation and joy.

 

Acknowledge Your Emotions

For the longest time, it was thought that happiness could only be achieved by experiencing positive emotions. However, according to recent studies, people feel a surge of happiness when they experience right emotions which are desirable at the time and are in accordance to the circumstances.

 

You can try it out by simply accepting the emotion that you are feeling at any given time for any event. Do not try to force positive thoughts upon your mind and repress negative ones as that will affect the quality of your happiness. If you acknowledge your emotions and let them flow, you will experience joy and emotional stability. The purpose here is to acknowledge your emotions.

 

Maintain Relationships

 

Studies have found that belonging to a group and sharing emotions increases our level of joy. In fact, people who have close friendships are happiest in their lives.It is not necessary to have a huge group of friends; the important point is how frequently you meet them and in which wayyou connect with your friends.

 

  • Listen and genuinely take interest when your friends and family are conversing with you. It has shown to cultivate positivity and strengthen bonds.
  • Share your personal feelings with a friend or relative as that will help reduce your stress and sadness.
  • Give emotional support and advice which will increase your sense of belonging and it will also increase your morality.

 

Meditate

 

Science has proven that meditation has profound effects on the mind, emotions and body. Researches have proved that meditation lowers anger, distress, depression, anxiety, helps with addictions and increases size of certain parts of the brain.

 

  • Start out with easy meditation exercises that you can find on the site of Roohbaru. Start by focusing on each part of your body which will help relax your muscles. If you feel that you are unable to meditate properly on your own, listen to the guided meditation and follow the instructions.
  • When you have mastered the easy exercises, you can progress to intermediate level yoga and meditation.
  • Meditation provides you with a sense of calm and anchors you in the present moment but if you feel that yoga is not helping you, try to find an activity that centers your thoughts and feelings.
  • You can sit down and meditate by focusing on your breathing. Also,  try out a body scan exercise (learn from Roohbaru’s website)
  • Meditation can also be in the form of walking quietly and clearing your mind so that your thoughts remain focused on each step that you are taking.



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