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About Physical Abuse

Beating, hitting or slapping are just to name a handful of physical abuses. The reason for engaging in the aforementioned behaviors is a combination of different situational and psychological factors; all of which are aimed at a harmless victim. It is a traumatic experience and might lead to symptoms that indicate a lack of resilience. Physical abuse is observed in different relationships but has some characteristics common to all abusers.

1. Loss of control: There are times when we all feel that intense anger and frustration where we want to hit someone. It is an urge to physically harm the person who is a source of anger, but these urges are fleeting in nature and we quickly compose ourselves. However, there are some individuals who are unable to control their anger and that lack of handle on the self leads to physical abuse. Think about the time your spouse hit you during a heated argument. It happened because they lost self-control and felt that the only other way to be dominant was the use of physical hurt. This brings us to our next characteristic.

2. Lack of knowledge: Handling conflicts, misunderstandings or ill feelings is not every ones cup of tea, some run away from them and others approach it heads on and handle it maturely. When things are mishandled, it can involve physical abuse also. The root cause for physical abuse is the inability to handle emotions and oneself, which then stems from a lack of knowledge. The lack of knowledge about how to communicate feelings, how to express anger and ill feelings in a healthy harmless manner and how damaging physical abuse is for a family, all influence how quickly a person chooses to raise their hand and hurt another person. Taking some examples of a parent who beat their three year old because they spill water on a sofa or a spouse who beat their partner because they forgot to undertake the assigned task, an understanding of how anger can be managed without ruining a relationship can be highlighted. These instances do not limit the intensity of the effect of many such events that leave a mark on an individual's life, be it a child or an adult. 

3. A winner: In almost all the cases of physical abuse, the abuser is always the winner. Often, people know how to manage anger and they are also generally in control of themselves, but a physical hurt always wins. This is one of the biggest reasons why physical abuse persists. It places the abuser in a superior position and the victim in an inferior one. Bullies for instance, they engage in physical abuse because that is the only means of validating their power and maintaining their superiority. A parent also uses the threat of a slap or a beating to win an argument or make a situation favorable. A spouse leaves bruises or wounds on their partner, reflecting their own superiority. Thus, many people resort to physical abuse.

Victims are often unaware of the reason for being beaten, slapped or hit and abusers are often equally unaware of the reasons that caused them to react in a physically aggressive manner. In many instances, the victim often carries the guilt of instigating the whole incident. They feel they are the reason for creating a whole mess out of the situation. As an abuser, one adds a layer of insecurity to the relationship and to the victim’s personality.

 Not only is the above applicable to abuse towards other humans, when physical abuse is hailed at another person’s property, it has the same devastating impact on an individual. This form of physical abuse does not cause bodily hurt, but a financial dent to the victim alongside feelings of apprehension, insecurity and anxiety.Physical abuse can be said to be one of the types of abuses and it also overlaps with emotional abuse. Domestic violence is one of the most common forms of physical abuse. Physical abuse can take place at schools, on the road, or at any other.

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